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Sex Again 101
Harlan Jacobsen Copyright © 2003 Love is a whole group of attitudes, ideas, ideals and emotions and includes sex as one part. Sex by itself is a biological drive, a function of the body and is controlled by what a person believes, or is preprogrammed with as a philosophy of life. Sex normally is considered what you can GET from others. Love, on the other hand, is putting another's well-being ahead of your own, sacrificing to put their welfare and happiness as number one. What you can GIVE. Love is centered, in the other person, sex is self-centered normally. Love involves what you can give others ........ ................. sex is what you can get from others. Sex without love is normally then, somewhat selfish, with lack of consideration. When you learn to be loving or a great lover in a sexual relationship you have learned to be more concerned with and derive as much or more satisfaction from giving satisfaction as you do from getting self satisfaction. When you have succeeded in turning your sex relationships from a getting situation............. ........... to a giving great pleasure and satisfaction situation, you have taken the big step. Masters and Johnson stated that you have to learn to give, to get. To me, this means for you to get the ultimate satisfaction what you give becomes more important than what you get.
It is no longer a sex relationship,..............
It will become necessary in order to become a genuine loving person, not a selfish individual concerned with your own pleasures, to become more giving in your other facets of your relationship too. Physical sexual gratification can be obtained without having love involved. Sex as part of a loving, giving relationship where you both CARE about the other's gratification physically and emotionally, is something much more meaningful and satisfying. Part of this learning to be a giving person in a sexual relationship is learning how to master the art. Some study of good information of the subject and some practice to make it subconscious. Perfection will take some time. Communication on an honest and uninhibited basis will be necessary from your partner for perfection. The big step is self-motivation to make the necessary effort to learn and to continually work at developing a sensual sexual awareness that responds with pleasure to your partner's needs and delights. . Many feel that women give sex to get love and the male animal gives love to get sex. The truly sexually "liberated" woman today is now finding that with physical development and practice, with unconditioning, reprogramming of a "nice woman doesn't enjoy sex" to "sex is the greatest joy", she is potentially able to get more from sex than the male. This often requires a true awakening of hidden potentials. Love and sex are interconnected. Sexual desire is an important part of falling in love. Today even though sexual values are changing and partners may or may not marry, people tend to fall in love to insure they will always have a sex partner according to a New York professor of psychiatry. Falling in love and marrying have represented for most people, he feels, the traditional way of satisfying sexual desires in a socially and personally acceptable way. The psychiatrist, Dr. Al Rifkin says that to fall in love there must be a. mutual attraction, similarity in tastes and backgrounds and adaptability to each others differences. A big factor in falling in love he states is the need for companionship and the hidden hunger for closeness.
Neither she nor anybody else has ever told him otherwise. How is he to know unless somebody tells him? Who is going to tell him? Everything is becoming easy to talk about in media such as this newspaper and web site, but sexual communication between lovers has advanced little from the "nice people don't talk about that sort of thing" or "if I say anything derogatory they will be absolutely crushed so I must put up with this to spare their feelings." Openness, a willingness to exchange ideas, feelings, and desires are necessary.
Yes,.......
As a single in this day and age, your question might be, do singles expect sex in a relationship? Most expect it as a part of a total relationship and counselors and singles inform me that most are involved in some type of sexual relationship. It has advanced to the point now that the single woman on a date with a man that doesn't make sexual approaches, wonders if there isn't something wrong with him. The magazine "Marriage and divorce " has an article entitled, "Liberated Sex, the Rise and Fall of Male Potency." It starts out with a line about a man that suggests they sleep together for the first time. "Your place or mine?" is the eager response. "If you're going to hassle about it, let's forget the whole thing" he retorts angrily. Yes, Mr. or Ms. Single, things have changed - sex has been there all the time...only now we can talk about it.
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